I am sure you will all agree that the last year for us all has been, and still continues to be, a horrendously emotional rollercoaster ride and we all have been learning to navigate through this unprecedented time of such uncertainty and fear. We had been conditioned to believe that our safety comes with being in control of our life, and here we are watching our old world crumbling before our eyes. We long to hold onto what we know and feels familiar. And any changes bring fear of the unknown, a sense of powerlessness, loss of control and uncertainty…
However, having, myself, faced in the last months the lowest lows and highest highs, I have learnt that in fact freedom and happiness come not in being in control of our environment but in the surrender and acceptance to what is. By letting go of attachments and judgments I have grown to trust more and more each day that in fact:
I had NOT arrived on this journey called life left abandoned and at the mercy of others.
I am NOT a powerless victim of this world but the Powerful co-creator of it.
I am safe, sovereign, free and whole, despite the terrifying events around me and the world at large.
My happiness is NOT an end goal, but it is an INTERNAL CHOICE THAT I MAKE EACH MOMENT OF MY LIFE.
My feelings and emotions are NOT my enemies but are gifts guiding me on the journey of what needs healing WITHIN US!
It is very much a work in progress for me but each day my time of despair gets shorter and is replaced with growing TRUST and a sense of growing freedom and sovereignty.
The intention of my work as a Life Transformational Coach is to guide others WITHIN, to reconnect to their true place of power and freedom, which is Universal, Divine Love, and thus reclaim their inherent role of being the powerful co-creator of their life. Instead of being a hostage of other people’s fears and subjects of their creation, we stay in our power and claim our inherent right of being the creator of our desired life.
The principle of my work is to awaken others to the power of their mind in creating their reality. One of the rules of the mind is that “We are what we THINK we are”. However, in Manifesting With Love, the added master ingredient in creating is, not only the thoughts we think and the words or images that we visualise, but the VIBRATION – the energy that we hold, the state of BEING that we are in when we think those thoughts and visualise those images. When we vibrate with fear, lack, doubts or victimhood and feel sorry for ourselves, we only attract more lack of what we want.
OUR VIBRATION FREQUENCY MAKES US THE MAGNET THAT CREATES OUR REALITY. So, in the process of creating what we want, it is vital to BE AWARE OF OUR VIBRATION AND THEN TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY TO KEEP IT HIGH.
So how do we do that? These are the steps that I learnt on my life journey of awakening and healing.
“We can’t change what we don’t see or understand, and we can’t heal what we don’t feel!”
The most important component of awakening and healing is AWARENESS. It is an internal job as we have to become aware of our vibration by acknowledging how we feel. And so instead of being a powerless reactor to what is, fuelled by our emotions, we first become the powerful observer of them.
Most of us grew up conditioned that we are not safe to show how we feel. If not by our parents, we learnt it from our environment. We learn that the only feeling we are allowed to share with the world is feeling happy, joyful or at peace. Those emotions are supposed to make us worthy of love. And when we feel angry or sad, those feelings are met with shame, humiliation and REJECTION. We are told then that there is something WRONG with us, so we are CONDITIONED TO react by RESISTING the unpleasant and hurtful feelings and try to hide them, squash them into the cells of our body or somehow escape them.
When we feel hurt or upset, we react with the ancient “tools” of:
BLAME – we look for someone else to blame for how we feel, as if dumping our hurt on someone would free us of it….
We stuff the emotions in and “cover” them with food, drugs, alcohol, etc
We run away from them by making ourselves busy with work, shopping, sex and excessive exercising, etc
We look for things and people to save us, to acknowledge and accept us, to fill us up and to make us whole and complete
We manipulate others and allow them to manipulate us, and we call it love or us being in power…
But do these tools work and deliver what they promised? Do they save us? Do we succeed in escaping our feelings?
It is the same as taking a pill to manage the symptoms of pain and discomfort without understanding or addressing the causes of our sickness, the cause of those symptoms.
If we are honest with ourselves, even if they numb our pain for a short while, in the long term they never work! In fact, by turning to them we give our power away and we reinforce that hurt, that toxic energy within us. They are firmly lodged into our cells and reappear and “attack” us as soon as the new events trigger the pain-body, that shadow that resides within us. And we live in constant fear of them re-appearing again.
We put our focus and energy on being in control of our environment, as we see our environment as the cause of our pain, instead of going within and acknowledging that that pain resides within US and hence it requires our journey WITHIN to heal it.
Our ego hates to hear it. This is why the journey of empowerment, liberation and healing is a journey of tremendous courage. And this is why we never go there unless we suffer so much that we are forced to go on our knees and surrender. We let go of blame and attachments and face our shadows, feel our past pains, our traumas that are stored in the cells of our body, we accept ourselves and all our emotions with love and compassion. Instead of trying to control our environment, we become in control of our emotions and hence our vibration.
By acknowledging and accepting our emotions we in fact acknowledge and accept ourselves and stop relying on others to do so. We recognise that the only person that can reject us is ourselves…. And that is how we reclaim our Love for ourselves and our inherent power and responsibility of being the co-creator of our life.
2. “We are never upset because of what is done or said about us but because of our interpretation, the meaning we gave of what IT MEANS ABOUT US”
Ask yourself now - How often are you Present WITH yourself? I think that If we were to observe our mind, we would see that over 90% of time we are either complaining, judging, reviewing our past or worrying about the future based on the beliefs that are stored in our subconscious mind. Our energy vibrates with fear most of our life as we can’t change our past or predict our future. So, we constantly are in a state of being unconscious slaves of our past. We see ourselves as powerless victims of our childhood and our environment. “They did it to me and it makes me worthless, unlovable, not good enough…” becomes our enslaving us mantra…
However, the awakening comes with our acknowledgment that as WE created those beliefs based on OUR INTERPRETATION - OUR MEANING - WE GAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE, WE ARE THE ONES WHO CAN CHANGE THEM NOW!
WE CAN DO IT ONLY WHEN WE BECOME the PRESENT AND FREE OF JUDGMENT OBSERVER OF OURSELVES.
How do we do it? How do we become this powerful observer and co-creator of our life in challenging situations?
Firstly, we PAUSE and BREATH. By breathing deeply we come back to ourselves and become PRESENT with ourselves. And we no longer are a prisoner of someone else’s energy or the toxic energy of our environment.
Secondly, we ACKNOWLEDGE and ACCEPT how we feel with NO JUDGMENT. We don’t resist how we feel or what we are going through as “what we resist, persists!” We watch our emotions with equanimity and trust that this too will pass. And thus, let them transcend, let them go and let Love take their place…
Thirdly, we take full RESPONSIBILITY FOR HOW WE FEEL. We recognise that our emotions are not a result of what is being done to us or said about us but are caused by the meaning we gave them. And that meaning, that interpretation, is based on the beliefs that are stored in our subconscious mind and have been programmed from our childhood based on the meaning we gave to what was going on in our life at the time and that meaning was appropriate to our age. By taking responsibility for our feelings now, we also take control of our beliefs as we recognise that if we had the power to create them in the past, we now have the power to change them.
3. Our feelings and emotions are not our enemies but are gifts guiding us on the journey of what needs healing within us!
By taking responsibility for our emotions and our vibration we stop being a victim of the circumstances we face now and recognise them as gifts, as our opportunity to go within, integrate our unprocessed traumas and change the limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs that are in fact the cause of our hurt.
By changing our beliefs from fear to love we raise our vibration, and this is how we reclaim our power of being the co-creator of our life. We stop being a hostage to our fears, of our past or victim of the circumstances in our life and become this powerful host of Divine Love. And we then become a magnet to happiness and love.
4. “Happiness is not an end goal, but it is an internal choice we make each moment of our life”
THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION TO ASK IS NOT WHAT I WANT BUT HOW DO I WANT TO BE, HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL?
In every situation we have a choice of either reacting from the place of fear or responding with love.
ACIM says that “every human encounter is an opportunity of giving love or asking for love”
So instead of resisting, fighting or trying to hide our hurtful emotions, we transcend them and find Happiness by stepping out of our victimhood and feeling sorry for ourselves or feeling unfairly treated and we CHOOSE Happiness instead of sadness, Peace instead of anger, Forgiveness instead of hate, Freedom and Sovereignty instead of victimhood.
“We become the change we want to see in the world”
5. “We are here NOT to chase for love but to become aware and remove all the blocks that stop us from the awareness of Love’s Presence within us”ACIM
We don’t have to chase for Love, or do anything to become worthy of It. Love is in fact OUR INHERITANCE, RESIDING WITHIN US. AND NOTHING THAT IS DONE TO US OR THAT WE DID CAN CHANGE OR DIMINISH IT. We lost the awareness of it because it is hidden underneath our fearful beliefs which fuel our emotions. So, the journey of Awakening and healing is in fact a journey of taking responsibility for our emotions by being Present with them with Unconditional Acceptance, and thus opening and giving space to Love in our mind and in our body. We then vibrate with Love and create what we love by becoming a powerful magnet to our Heart’s desires.
So, in summary, our power does not come from controlling the outcome but by being in control of our emotions and hence our vibration, as that vibration determines the outcome.
By becoming the observer of ourselves we now see that we have a choice. We are not powerless victims of circumstances and other people’s agendas, but we can choose to be in charge of how we feel and therefore what state of frequency we choose to be in, to vibrate with. And by holding our vibration of Love, regardless of other people’s opinions or actions, we transcend our circumstances and change our reality – and we create miracles…
This is why the journey of healing, empowerment and freedom is a journey of un-judgmental acceptance and surrender to the Divine Love that is our True, Inherent Power.
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